READ BOOK ☆ Party of One: The Loners' Manifesto - by Anneli Rufus
Jan 27, 2020 - 10:45 AMBy Anneli Rufus

The Buddha Rene Descartes Emily Dickinson Greta Garbo Bobby Fischer J D Salinger Loners, all along with as many as 25 percent of the world s population Loners keep to themselves, and like it that way Yet in the press, in films, in folklore, and nearly everywhere one looks, loners are tagged as losers and psychopaths, perverts and pity cases, ogres and mad bombersThe Buddha Rene Descartes Emily Dickinson Greta Garbo Bobby Fischer J D Salinger Loners, all along with as many as 25 percent of the world s population Loners keep to themselves, and like it that way Yet in the press, in films, in folklore, and nearly everywhere one looks, loners are tagged as losers and psychopaths, perverts and pity cases, ogres and mad bombers, elitists and wicked witches Too often, loners buy into those messages and strive to change, making themselves miserable in the process by hiding their true nature and hiding from it Loners as a group deserve to be reassessed to claim their rightful place, rather than be perceived as damaged goods that need to be fixed In Party of One Anneli Rufus a prize winning, critically acclaimed writer with talent to burn has crafted a morally urgent, historically compelling tour de force a long overdue argument in defense of the loner, then and now Marshalling a polymath s easy erudition to make her case, assembling evidence from every conceivable arena of culture as well as interviews with experts and loners worldwide and her own acutely calibrated analysis, Rufus rebuts the prevailing notion that aloneness is indistinguishable from loneliness, the fallacy that all of those who are alone don t want to be, and wouldn t be, if only they knew how.
  • Title: Party of One: The Loners' Manifesto
  • Author: Anneli Rufus
  • ISBN: 9781569245132
  • Page: 149
  • Format: Paperback

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Wesley Harney Jan 27, 2020 - 10:45 AM
Until I started reading this book, on Monday, I had previously held the misconception that I was defected for not being social The book has opened my eyes to some interesting aspects about myself, life, and how my lonerness affects my relationships I learned that people that I get close to, romantically, feel as if I am being aloof, and stand offish That they believe that I am not into them, or that I am avoiding them It is rather an interesting, and new concept for me The book has made me real [...]
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Matt Jan 27, 2020 - 10:45 AM
I feel weird when I start a book and don t finish it, even if I hate it That being said, I have given in to the fact that I am never going to finish this one, and I didn t hate it I read about 75% of the book, but it got so repetitive I couldn t go any further I like her basic premise, and she definitely seems like she has done her research As I get older, I feel like I m tending to become of a loner, but this lady takes it a bit too far Basically she s telling people to be proud of this person [...]
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Emma Sea Jan 27, 2020 - 10:45 AM
This may be my new favourite book ever Confession three weeks into a new job I once burst into tears because the team sprung a suprise shared lunch on me After having to endlessly talk to people, in a stresful new situation, all I wanted was to be ALONE, with my BOOK, for an hour to find myself again, and realising I was instead going to have to make small talk gahk and then face a stressful afternoon with talking was enough to guarantee they had to hold the lunch without me, while I cried in t [...]
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Meg Jan 27, 2020 - 10:45 AM
Pretension oozes out of this book I picked up this book expecting an interesting examination of what it means to be a loner Instead, the book reads like a scattered list of loners with a one to two paragraph summary of the randomly chosen loner, maybe peppered with a quotation When the book isn t rambling about random topics, it s rather defensive and self righteous about we loners, what we re like Being a loner myself, I often wished the author would speak for herself.Not recommended.
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Joe Robles Jan 27, 2020 - 10:45 AM
I am a loner Thanks to this book, I m no longer ashamed to say it I told a friend that and her response was awww as if she was sad for me I responded humorously that s exactly the type of prejudice this book is trying to fight Loners are very misunderstood, and as Party of One points out, it is a bit the media s fault Every time someone commits some heinous crime, they immediately call him a loner Ms Rufus creates a clear distinction between loners who wish to be left alone and outcasts those wh [...]
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RunRachelRun Jan 27, 2020 - 10:45 AM
Ultimately, I believe, that all true readers are parties of one This is why this website is so wonderful We can share, but we still choose reading over chatting, no
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Alison Livingston Jan 27, 2020 - 10:45 AM
Although I am pretty sure people who know me would not peg me as a loner, this books so perfectly describes me in every sense that is has now become one of my favorite books of all time.Loners are often stereotyped as misanthropic, perverted, creepy, weird and at worst, potential serial killers The writer goes into a great deal of detail to differentiate the above personality types with normal people who just like to be alone than in the company of others.True loners have close friends and fami [...]
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Marsha Jan 27, 2020 - 10:45 AM
Society consists of individuals moving as one People who insist on their private space are seen, erroneously, as aloof, stuck up, psychotic, neurotic, unfriendly, cold, selfish Self help books exist by the thousands to help make friends and influence people , get laid, find the right man, get married before 30, stay married, keep the home fires burning, have children, talk to anybody about anything, etc etc etc Here, at last, is a book that refutes and rejects such frantic terms of socializing G [...]
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えりか Jan 27, 2020 - 10:45 AM
started off interesting and i was excited that it was going to be good, but it got old after the first few chapters and by it i mean her prickly, defensive outlook on everything too much We the tragically misunderstood vs They the mindless zombie mob i also find it kind of ironic that she keeps referring to loners as we i was intrigued in the beginning, tired of her over generalizations by about halfway and sick of her condescending attitude towards sociable people by the end as a of a loner ty [...]
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Mike Lester Jan 27, 2020 - 10:45 AM
Don t get me wrong There s nothing I like than to be surrounded by friends, people I truly love and care about Good food, good drink, good conversation, good times in general I love these moments, savor them, live for them, in fact The tragedy of life is the sea of jackasses you have to swim through to get to them Just crossing the street is an epic battle, like something out of Lord of the Rings Every day brings some fresh hell, some kind of confrontation with a barbarian, gleeful in his ignor [...]
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Martin Mulcahey Jan 27, 2020 - 10:45 AM
Every loner has to have three copies of this book not in a Catcher in the Rye sorta way so the next time someone in your family or friend asks why are you that way you can just lend him this book Since loners get that question a lot, you will need the extra copies I loved the way Anneli showed how society has changed the loner from a revered pioneer, cowboy, or Batman hero figure to the loner who shoots up work places or schools Never noticed it before but it does seem every news report about sh [...]
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Shelly Blom Jan 27, 2020 - 10:45 AM
What an awesome book It was so refreshing to get a positive, affirming perspective on the preference for solitude Alone does not necessarily mean lonely I certainly found this book refreshing given the negative spin the media likes to put on loners, and the tendency to lump angry outcasts who actually want but are denied social connection, in with those whose natural temperament is just not comfortable in the herd team connectedness that society wants to stamp as normal She asserts compellingly [...]
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Cathy Douglas Jan 27, 2020 - 10:45 AM
This would have made a fine essay, but there isn t enough substance here for a book It feels padded I like her attitude Her premise is that loners don t have to apologize for being who we are, and that being a loner in itself doesn t constitute pathology But the listings of loner tech geniuses, movie characters, novelists, etc became tedious Fewer examples in greater depth would work better.
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Kiri Jan 27, 2020 - 10:45 AM
This book defines, and celebrates, the loner A loner is not just a person who is alone a loner is someone who enjoys being alone Someone who is alone, yet lonely, is not a loner that person is a non loner, and an unhappy one at that Loners are happy when alone, and than happy they thrive when given their own alone space Rufus also describes loners who can be loners in a crowd, because the vast anonymity of a large group renders them all nigh invisible Personally, I m of the loner way off alone [...]
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Chelsea Jan 27, 2020 - 10:45 AM
For a self proclaimed loner, Anneli Rufus seems to care an awful lot about what other people seem to think of herself and her fellow loners Beyond the introduction, however, she offers a thoughtful insight into the lives of people that just don t care to spend lots of time with other people Groupthink she calls it, evolved as a survival mechanism, when it really did take a village hunting, gathering, and child rearing couldn t all be done by one person the help of all was needed Now we are very [...]
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Sheryl Jan 27, 2020 - 10:45 AM
Well, after all these years, I realize this is why my idea of a great time is to sit by my fire and read or knit alone I m a loner, and I got those genes from my dad, who is going to get this book in his stocking this year, as is one of my brothers And mind you, LONER is not a bad thing, it just is Very interesting commentary for those of us who aren t party animals and don t tolerate mass culture very well And being a loner doesn t mean you don t like people, which I do but only in interesting, [...]
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knig Jan 27, 2020 - 10:45 AM
Apparently Leonardo Da Vinci once said in company only half of you will belong to yourself As he swore by solitude as the road to wisdom and artistic perfection, he would say that of course But uncannily, this axiom seems to have been time tried, tested an asserted by a horde of artistes, philosophers, painters and other noticeables all catalogued with great trivial pursuit soundbites Obviously the motto of a book titled the loner manifesto is only ever going to validate the axis of me, myself a [...]
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Samantha Jan 27, 2020 - 10:45 AM
I picked up this book because, in the past, I have often identified myself with this group loners and so I thought this would be an interesting read It was, although I believe it was meant for the absolute extreme definition of the word loner , and not the watered down, almost villainous version that appears in society today This book was very amusing while still staying informative, which I liked, however, the author could sometimes be a bit too sarcastic and so it came off a little stuck up an [...]
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Allie Jan 27, 2020 - 10:45 AM
Not great It certainly is a manifesto, and not really the non fiction book I was expecting I wanted there to be than anecdotal evidence and strangely drawn conclusions There was too much Us vs Them for me to take it seriously, let alone enjoy it.
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Courtney Ficker Jan 27, 2020 - 10:45 AM
I appreciate this book for its defense of loners like me, and I m going to keep the book on my physical shelf as a talking point if nothing else, but I felt like the book was a little over the top.I wish it had gone into detail about the psychology of introversion It s not the same as shyness, it s not the same as depression, and it s not the same as misanthropy We simply spend our social energy when we re among people, and recharge it by being alone For most people, it s the other way around T [...]
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Ron Jan 27, 2020 - 10:45 AM
Rufus claims to be a celebrated author of numerous books, but this book is astonishing for its lack of any perception and marks her as an author to avoid She abhors a crass consumer culture while lauding creative loners who take advantage of the market by making dubious art or advertising which she so nobly turned down She seems to assert the anarchist perspective that culture and big cities are abominations and that loners are the most adaptive, but she makes the ludicrous assertion that all te [...]
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elizabeth Jan 27, 2020 - 10:45 AM
For a book whose purpose is to get people to understand and accept loners, it s surprisingly black and white There are loners who never, ever want to be around people, and everyone else is a nonloner and therefore sucks Apparently Just like introversion extroversion is a spectrum, I imagine lonerism nonlonerism would be a spectrum as well It makes sense, but apparently not to this author who has a serious chip on her shoulder If you played a drinking game where you had to take a drink every time [...]
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Jennifer Jan 27, 2020 - 10:45 AM
I wanted to like this book than I did As an inveterate loner myself, in some ways it was as much a relief as a pleasure, to read the thoughts of someone who knows how I feel But lonerhood, like any other aspect of life, is an individual lived experience, so there were times when Anneli Rufus used the pronoun we when I felt she should have said I This, I ll admit, is a totally lonerish complaint Deal with it I did really enjoy the sense of camaraderie from a distance And I think she has an excel [...]
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Melody Jan 27, 2020 - 10:45 AM
Interesting premise, but ultimately annoying Could have been an in depth analysis of the solitary sort of person, but instead it s a bunch of laundry lists of loners in various jobs, loners who are unfairly maligned, loners who ought to be recognized and honored for their specialness, rather than excoriated by the great touchy feely mob This book made me weary and irritable, and want to be alone forever.
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Zezee Jan 27, 2020 - 10:45 AM
I prefer not to give this one a rating I could not get past the first few chapters Although I consider myself an introvert and a loner because I like solitude, I find the arguments too one sided I thought this would be a book I could relate to and learn something from like Susan Cain s Quiet but it s not It turned my mind to mush while I read I can t continue.
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Lorra Fae Jan 27, 2020 - 10:45 AM
If you re a loner, this is definitely a must read It s flippin fantastic.
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Damian Jan 27, 2020 - 10:45 AM
Dare I admit that I read this to justify my own existence A fun read.
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Eleriel Jan 27, 2020 - 10:45 AM
Non proprio il libro che vorrei tanto leggere sull argomento, ma comunque infinitamente meglio di Quiet Anche se bisogna specificare che non trattano proprio la stessa materia Quiet era pi generico, parlando in generale di introversione Party Of One, invece, specifico parla di quelle persone che non sono semplici introversi, bens solitari Ovvero chi non si limita a cercare un po di solitudine ogni tanto per ricaricarsi, ma chi preferisce stare il pi possibile da solo Ritrovandomi in questo sotto [...]
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Amy Jan 27, 2020 - 10:45 AM
I am a loner myself, and quite a one acually, always have been And it s nice to see that there are meaningful books on this topic, because people really need to open their eyes and minds I myself live in Czech Republic, which the author mentions in her book, and here it s not such a big deal, but in many places it s really bad, and people really need to be open minded That said, this book can bee really angering when you get to the things she quoted Those are perfect examples how simple minded [...]
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Party of One: The Loners' Manifesto By Anneli Rufus The Buddha Rene Descartes Emily Dickinson Greta Garbo Bobby Fischer J D Salinger Loners, all along with as many as 25 percent of the world s population Loners keep to themselves, and like it that way Yet in the press, in films, in folklore, and nearly everywhere one looks, loners are tagged as losers and psychopaths, perverts and pity cases, ogres and mad bombersThe Buddha Rene Descartes Emily Dickinson Greta Garbo Bobby Fischer J D Salinger Loners, all along with as many as 25 percent of the world s population Loners keep to themselves, and like it that way Yet in the press, in films, in folklore, and nearly everywhere one looks, loners are tagged as losers and psychopaths, perverts and pity cases, ogres and mad bombers, elitists and wicked witches Too often, loners buy into those messages and strive to change, making themselves miserable in the process by hiding their true nature and hiding from it Loners as a group deserve to be reassessed to claim their rightful place, rather than be perceived as damaged goods that need to be fixed In Party of One Anneli Rufus a prize winning, critically acclaimed writer with talent to burn has crafted a morally urgent, historically compelling tour de force a long overdue argument in defense of the loner, then and now Marshalling a polymath s easy erudition to make her case, assembling evidence from every conceivable arena of culture as well as interviews with experts and loners worldwide and her own acutely calibrated analysis, Rufus rebuts the prevailing notion that aloneness is indistinguishable from loneliness, the fallacy that all of those who are alone don t want to be, and wouldn t be, if only they knew how.

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